Monday, August 27, 2007

Who's looking for love online?
22/08/2007 10:17 - (SA)

Zimkhitha Sulelo, News24 User

More and more people go online these days in search of their true love. Gone are the days when girls used to go out and hope that the cute guy across the table would some how find the courage to ask for a phone number. Now there is no point in waiting and all can be done in few minutes by posting a profile on internet.

With the help of internet one can be sitting at home wearing pyjamas and manage to attract enough attention from other online users. This can be done without having to worry about make up or shaving for that important first date.

There is also plenty of time to get to know the person a little before meeting them. By chatting to the person, one can decide if he or she is worth a date. There is no risk of catching HIV/Aids online either!

But when internet dating started, it was seen as something used by desperate people only. Now, more and more people are opting to use internet dating - especially the ones with busy lifestyles.

Second chances

An article I read recently illustrated exactly why a lot of people choose the internet to find love. "Sweetgal" a 29 year old Muslim woman, said that after her divorce from a man she was forced to marry, she decided to go online to find her true love. She knew exactly what she wanted from a man.

Bizcommunity claims that only about 12% South Africans have used internet to find love. Out of all these people, some are looking for love while some are just doing it for fun or what is referred to as "no-strings-attached-relationships".

According to a survey done by Netucation in 2004, there are more females online than males but there are also more married men online than single men. So, if you are looking for love on the internet be on the look out for married men and the most common lies which are about age and status.

Apparently, most of the time the picture used on a profile is a few years younger than the profile owner.

History lingers

Looking at the history of our country, it is not surprising to find out that about 78% of the people online are white followed by only 11.14 % of black people (not including coloureds and Indians). Most people online are from Gauteng province followed by Cape Town.

Netucation statistics also show that the predominate age group the 25-32 crowd, followed by 33-39. The majority of the first group apparently just want sex while the second group is mostly divorced people who are looking for a second chance in love.

Apparently someone's email address says a lot about that person so depending on what you're looking for, it would be wise to check the email addresses to make sure you are looking for the same things.

Regardless of age, race and gender, online users have the same goal - to find love. After all, love is worth searching for and if it means you need the internet to do it, so be it.

It can be a dog's life finding a partner on the internet - Feature

Berlin - Like attracts like - even on the internet where the dream partner is just a mouse-click away. But people need to be inventive to find the right suitor. Take Berlin resident Dani, for example. She used her pet Dalmatian Magic in her attempt to find Mr Right.

The 35-year-old posted a photo of the black-and-white canine on the website www.date-a-dog.de, which offers pet-loving singles the chance to meet up with like-minded souls.

In addition to the doggy details, the owner can also place his or her vital statistics on the website. Some 6,000 pet owners have already sought to establish closer contact this way.

More than 9 million Germans flirt on the internet, according to the initiative www.safedating.de.

"There are around 2,000 online forums where people can look for partners," estimates Jan Skopek, a social science researcher at the University of Bamberg.

These new types of dating agencies are drawing customers away from traditional lonely hearts clubs, resulting in millions of dollars in lost income, he says.

Turnover from registration fees and advertising on internet dating portals has grown from 20 million euros (27 million dollars) in 2003 to 115 million euros in 2006, says Henning Weichers, managing director of www.singleboersen-vergleich.de.

Dating this way saves time, according to Skopek. "Users can quickly pick out whoever they think might be suitable."

It is particularly useful for people with daytime jobs, who can spend the evening surfing through the huge number of potential partners available over the internet.

Singles are choosy when it comes to looking for the right partner, Skopek says. A poorly taken photograph can result in a would-be lover being clicked into oblivion.

While males tend to go for the physical attributes of a female partner, women place more emphasis on a man's education and professional background.

People with special interests have a greater chance of meeting the right person than those without, according to research.

London's internet radio www.lastfm.de believes that music lovers often find themselves on the same wavelength in other fields.

On its website, the station lists who has been listening to what songs over a period of hours or days. It doesn't bother the lonely hearts that other listeners can click on their personal details. The main thing is that they meet the right person as quickly as possible.

"Chrissy," a 20-year-old German girl with long hair, is a fan of the Munich group Sportfreunde Stiller. According www.lastfm.de, her music taste matches that of "Antonio Junior," aged 20.

Unfortunately, the couple will have to do their flirting via email because Antonio Junior lives in Brazil.

But for those not interested in pets or music, blood is an alternative. The portal www.single-service.de matches prospective partners according to their blood groups.

According to a Japanese theory, different blood groups represent different characteristics in a person.

"People with blood group A, for example, are considered highly responsible and sensitive, according to single-service board member Alexander Hotz. "They would rarely go on holiday spontaneously."

Those with group O are ambitious and strong-willed. They are also unpunctual, according to Hotz. Group B types are considered communicative.

One-third of the 300,000 singles registered with the portal have given their blood groups, he says.

Skopek believes that the internet makes it easier for people to get to know one another. But it is up to the couples themselves to decide what happens after their first meeting.

"The internet doesn't bring people together," he says. "It's the couples themselves who do that."

the Dating Game: Are you sending that thumb-hither look?

Charlotte.com

August 25, 2007

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In a landscape littered with suggestive emoticons and digital come-hithers, a new hazard seems inevitable for potential paramours: sprained thumbs.

More than ever, texting has become a conduit for singles to commingle. From flirting to breaking up -- remember Britney's 'Dear John' text to K-Fed? -- text messaging is now a tool often used in the game of love.

Texting is a valuable means to help couples connect, says Gail Laguna, vice president of communications for Spark Networks, which includes JDate.com, Hurry-Date.com and ChristianMingle.com.

With everyone wrapped up in their careers, stuck at their desks or sitting in traffic on their daily commutes, using a free moment to send a text has become a viable way for people to simply touch base or take it to the next level.

'It's almost become difficult to get people on the phone now,' Laguna says. 'E-mail you can deny receiving, but you pretty much know that unless somebody happened to forget their phone at home, whatever you send is going to end up right in their pocket.'

All of the speedy key punching isn't used for just flirtation: 13 percent of mobile phone users have received text or multimedia messages with more explicit sexual content, according to a study conducted in November by Perduco, a Norwegian research firm.

For users under 30 years old, it's 19 percent. With about 3 billion cell phone subscribers worldwide, that's enough tawdry text to fill a red-light Library of Congress.

Author Kristina Grish writes about how digital technology has affected the rules of the game in 'The Joy of Text: Mating, Dating and Techno-Relating' (Simon Spotlight Entertainment, $12.95). With a goal of providing an Emily Post-style guide for women using technology in dating, the book urges readers to use texting and other digital means to reflect rather than reinvent who they are.

Grish knew she was onto a hot topic when she observed a female friend of hers texting a man at a birthday party.

'They were in the same room, at the same birthday party, spending a good hour flirting over text message,' Grish says. 'My first thought was, `Hey, wimp! Go over and say hello.' But it also worked very nicely because nobody else knew they were flirting. They didn't have to worry about the gossip machine.'

Texting is a handy means to flirt. And like any sort of communication between the sexes, it's often over-analyzed by the person on the receiving end, Grish said.

All of which provided a greater impetus for Grish to write the book.

'There is so much technology that is popping up every day,' she says. 'There has to be some sort of basic set of rules so that everybody's on the same page.'

Perhaps the most fundamental rule in using this mode for romantic purposes is to remember that your goal is to eventually put down the device and communicate face-to-face.

Keep It Short, Keep It Sweet, Keep It Sane

Texting tips for flirting, dating and more, from Kristina Grish, author of 'The Joy of Text':

** Keep it real -- Texting is fine as a way to initiate or even support a relationship, but move the patter offline as soon as possible.

** Avoid the X's and O's -- Some women affectionately sign off with the symbols for kisses and hugs. Though it can be endearing to a female friend, it might send a wrong (if not overwhelming) message to the man who you've just begun texting.

** Manage the manic -- Try not to get swept up in the flirtatious fun of rapid-fire texting, the kind that gives you butterflies every time the phone beeps. 'It's very easy to be a little sexier and provocative' via text messages, says Grish. 'But realize the person expects you to deliver in person.'

** Keep it simple -- Text messages are supposed to be short and, hopefully, sweet. If someone has to hit 'scroll down' to read your text, you might as well have sent an e-mail.

** Be responsive -- Answer a text message within 24 hours, otherwise you are blowing that person off. If you can't answer in a day, make a call.

** No `booty' texting -- 'If you're going to make a 'booty' anything, make it a phone call,' Grish says. 'When someone calls you for that purpose, you can hear their voice; you can hear if they're drunk, sincere or desperate; it can nudge your conscience; or you can decide on a laissez-faire, fun choice for the evening.'

The Best US Cities for Singles

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Every year Forbes.com reviews the largest (40) urban centers in the US and - using criteria such as nightlife, the costs associated with single living, dating opportunities or events and the number of singles in the area - determine a list of the best US cities for singles. This year's top city, San Francisco, topped the charts because its cultural opportunities outstripped all of the other contenders, although the number of singles, online dating opportunities and 'cool' were all highly ranked as well.

Formerly top-ranked Denver (from 2004-2006) dropped out of the rankings because of a change in the way Forbes determines an urban area, although Denver still earns the #1 spot for low-cost living. Nightlife heavy New York came in second this year, while Los Angeles (#1 for entertainment), Atlanta and Chicago rounded out the top five cities for singles in the US.

Do you think the Forbes survey missed out a singles-friendly US city, or wrongly ranked any of the top five listed here?

The Love That Will Finally Speak Its Name

It took the death of my dear life partner for me to find the courage to come out of the closet.

By Loraine Barr

Newsweek

Sept. 3, 2007 issue - I was born at a time when to have romantic feelings for another woman was known as "the love that dare not speak its name." I first read Radclyffe Hall's "The Well of Loneliness" around 1938, in my impressionable teens. The book was a heartfelt cry for understanding and acceptance of the "invert." Now we say "gay" and "lesbian," and nobody faints, although we still lack the same rights as other citizens. In how many ways have attitudes changed? And how have they not?

When I went to college in the 1940s, the sex books were kept under lock and key in the UCLA library. I was too embarrassed to ask for permission to borrow those books.

Seeking enlightenment, I looked at young women walking around the campus engrossed in one another, and I thought, "Well, at least they have each other."

I did not realize that even I was judging them, while perhaps envying them. I was dating men regularly and enjoyed being thought popular. Nevertheless, when I came home after each date, said "Goodnight" and closed the door, I usually breathed a sigh of relief.

One eligible young man said, on leaving, "We'll get together soon." I said, "All right, but be sure to warn me."

"Warn you!" he exploded, slamming the door as he left.

And then I met a woman: a teacher on campus, who helped me see beauty in the whole world. At 28, for the first time, I was loved and knew love, for myself, for the person I really was.

But while glorying in my never-before-experienced happiness, I knew it had to be hidden. She was married. Often, the only way to see her was with her husband. I was also dating her brother, and we all would sometimes go dancing.

That relationship ended after a few years, when my loved one's husband intervened. I didn't see her until years later, when I stood in line at her book signing at USC. She was alone, cordial; she asked about my mother. But no, she couldn't join me for coffee afterward.

Now I write this after living for 44 years with the most loved and loving, giving, understanding and delightful partner imaginable. For all our time together, we were "in the closet."

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For so long, if you were a known homosexual you could lose your job. We kept our relationship from our families—or at least we thought we did. After my partner died, her son told me that her family knew about us, but kept our secret because they believed our relationship was our own business.

But our silence for all those years was also partially a self-induced caution. Looking back, I think it's possible that as the world changed, we didn't change fast enough.

We knew a few other lesbian couples, and we were comfortable around them. But most of our friends were straight, so we had separate bedrooms to make it seem as though we were just roommates. On one occasion, when my partner and I were with cherished, straight friends, just the four of us after a satisfying dinner, sitting quietly in our living room, I thought how liberating it would be for us to tell our friends of our relationship. They must have seen it coming, for they quickly changed the subject. We four remained warmhearted friends, but we two never again tried to enlighten them or any others.

I never spoke about my sexual orientation with my mother, but she also must have known. When she died, the last thing she said to me was, "I never understood your way of life, but I do now." I didn't reply.

Finally, after almost nine years since my beloved partner's death, I am able to do what I could never have braved in earlier years: pre-sent myself herewith to the world as a lesbian, along with all the women who ask to be judged by the full facet of our characters.

Why am I now able to speak the unspoken? A friend at the retirement community where I live recently came out in the local and national newspapers. When I saw her do that, I thought, for heaven's sake, nobody can fire me, I'm 88 years old, my parents are gone.

Still, I was frightened. It took me several days to put this essay in the mailbox. I owe a lot of credit to people who are comfortable enough in their own skins to say, "This is who I am."

Shall I be haunted for trying to tell my story now, when many might still not wish to address it, or shall I, perhaps, be congratulated?

"The Southern Guide to Internet Dating" Launches Fourth Episode of Video Advice for the Romantically Challenged, Ya'll

"The Southern Guide to Internet Dating" is a series of comedy shorts with practical and funny tips on how to succeed in the often baffling world of online personals. Hosted by romance expert Miss Lora, the video clips can be viewed by visiting www.SouthernGuidetoInternetDating.com.

(PRWEB) August 27, 2007 -- "The Southern Guide to Internet Dating" with host Miss Lora launches its highly anticipated fourth episode Monday, August 27th to the delight of viewers everywhere. Whether single, married or just sitting it out, viewers can get up to speed with the first three chapters of the wit and wisdom of Miss Lora at www.SouthernGuidetoInternetDating.com.

"Everyone takes dating way too seriously," says romance expert Miss Lora. "My 'Southern Guide to Internet Dating' videos make it fun again!" A little bit trailer trash and a lot of common sense, Miss Lora's series of comic shorts guide dating hopefuls through the wacky world and rocky romantic shoals of online personals. After years of her own disastrous and often hilarious experiences, she decided to put her down-home advice on video.

I hope to increase everyone's chances of finding a good mate - or at least a second dinner date.

Miss Lora gives her nitty-gritty perspective on what to do, say and wear in every situation. "The first 10 minutes are crucial whether it's on the phone or in person," Miss Lora explains. "Most people are clueless about where they went wrong. Really." As she's often quoted, "You don't wanna go there. Trust me."

Miss Lora had a very specific goal when she created her series. "I hope to increase everyone's chances of finding a good mate - or at least a second dinner date."

A few testimonials from her viewers include one from Betty Lou Hereford. "With her tips like the two second rule and why every man better notice a woman's toes, Miss Lora makes datin' as easy as pecan pie."

"Big Mike" Capucchio says, "I'm from Jersey, yeah a Yankee. Miss Lora told me the three things you should never say to a lady, and now I can even get a date in New York City."

Says Miss Lora, "Good manners can make all the difference in your success in the dating world, and who better to teach them than a Southerner?"

About Miss Lora
Miss Lora first ventured into the online personals 10 years ago and has had hundreds of men answer her ads. After hearing too many complaints from friends who foundered on the romantic rocks of the Internet, she decided to come to the rescue of the lovelorn everywhere and explain how it really ought to be done with her book/video series "The Southern Guide to Internet Dating." In just a few minutes, it's clear that Miss Lora is wise beyond her big hair and bust line and comes by her accent honestly by way of Florida and Texas. Always ready with a quip and a tip about romance realities and dating etiquette, Miss Lora is available for personal appearances in California or on TV talk shows and over the phone for interviews - "You should call me."

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Simple to classy: budget dating

San Diego is an ideal location for romantic and inexpensive dates

Natalia Van Stralen, Assistant Features Editor

Issue date: 8/27/07 Section: Dating & Romance

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The Prado Restaurant at Balboa Park is an ideal dating spot for an afternoon lunch or a dressy dinner. The courtyard is a date favorite with palm trees and a romantic fountain at its center.

Media Credit: Glenn Connelly / Photo Editor

The Prado Restaurant at Balboa Park is an ideal dating spot for an afternoon lunch or a dressy dinner. The courtyard is a date favorite with palm trees and a romantic fountain at its center.

Balboa Park offers countless options including museums, amusement opportunities and several restaurants. It also has cactus, rose and botanical gardens.

Media Credit: Glenn Connelly / Photo Editor

Balboa Park offers countless options including museums, amusement opportunities and several restaurants. It also has cactus, rose and botanical gardens.

Massive buildings with ancient architecture complement a series of colossal palms. The aroma of Italian food infiltrates the air and sets a desirable atmosphere for a romantic - yet inexpensive - date at The Prado Restaurant at Balboa Park.

That's right, inexpensive. The Prado Restaurant, located at 1549 El Prado, has free parking, stunning architecture and flavorsome foods, all at reasonable prices. Its ambiance provides something for new and old couples alike to enjoy.

And, it's just one of the many places around San Diego that allow for an unforgettable dating experience that won't require you to stay in for the next three dates because you spent so much on the first.

Dating on a budget is a tough balance - between satisfying your own standards of a date, impressing your significant other and keeping expense in mind.

One of the most important things to focus on when dating on a budget is to pay special attention to admission prices. Don't spend your money on high entrance fees; instead, save for a splurge on dessert later or a gift from a museum shop. Some admission-free date options include Balboa Park and Belmont Park.

Balboa Park is an ideal spot because of the numerous date options the park provides - no matter how many times you visit you can always make a new memory.

The park boasts 19 museums with something for every interest, from art to science to model trains. The admissions to the museums vary because most of them are independently managed.

However, memberships are available and many museums offer free admission during the week.

If you're looking for something else to entertain you, the park's eight performing arts centers make choosing one performance difficult. Admission prices vary but many offer group rates - for group daters - and student discounts. The theaters' artistic talents range from dance and puppetry to symphonies and plays.

If a museum walk or a seated play isn't of interest to you, there are enough attractions to turn this article into a book. There are botanical gardens, a miniature railroad ride and an IMAX theater as well as hiking and biking trails.

Every Sunday there are open houses from noon to 4 p.m. that display the different international customs. At 2 p.m. on Sundays, from March through October, the cottages showcase music, dance, traditional costumes, arts, crafts, and ethnic foods - all for free.

To see all that Balboa Park has to offer, go to www.balboapark.org.

If you're looking for an atmosphere that's more simple than symphony, Belmont Park provides not only park activities and food but an ideal location right on Mission Beach.

The Belmont amusement park has 11 rides to choose from and a Wild West Photo shoot option that will provide you with an entertaining dress-up experience and a picture memory of your date at the park - at low prices.

The Giant Dipper Roller Coaster is a classic favorite that's been entertaining daters since 1925. The speedway bumper cars or the Krazy Kars are also fun date options. Each of these rides won't cost you more than a pair of movie tickets.

Shopping is also available at the park including Sun Diego Boardshops and Henna Heaven where you and your date can get henna tattoos that aren't nearly as pricey or as long-lasting as a real tattoo.

There are also several restaurants and food options including the popular WaveHouse and Canes Bar & Grill, as well as the Sweet Shoppe - a sure inexpensive stop at the end of your date.

If you are looking for a night of movies with a bit of a twist, Edwards Mira Mesa Stadium 18 is located at 10733 Westview Parkway and has an IMAX screen for $13.50 per person. Cook dinner together before the show to save on cash; you won't be disappointed with the IMAX movie experience.

If you want to bring dinner with you to the movie, try the South Bay Drive-In, open seven nights a week, year-round, and at $7 per person for two movies it is an inexpensive date must.

Located under the starry sky in Coronado at 2170 Coronado Ave., the box office opens at 7:30 p.m. and the first show starts at 8:30. There is also a snack bar with very inexpensive snack options.

The romantic restaurant setting and picturesque after-dinner scenery may be your idea of an ideal date. It may also be a day of swimming at the beach, riding on Krazy Kars and topping it off with a bag of candy and an ice cream cone.

Being on a budget doesn't mean you have to also be limited on your dating options. Romance is capable of arising in any atmosphere - be it a fancy, inexpensive dinner or the starry sky at a drive-in movie.

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Friday, August 24, 2007

A toast to meeting that special someone 'Down the hatch'

A toast to meeting that special someone 'Down the hatch' dating

August 24, 2007

By Stephanie Kohl Special to the Courier News

People have resorted to sneaking out of restroom windows, faking an illness and having a friend call about an "emergency" to escape a bad date.

Let's Grab a Drink!, a new online dating site, aims to dispel the need for such excuses.

After having conversations with friends who were burned out on dating, John Mamalakis took his friends seriously when they said it would be great only to commit to having one drink with someone to decide if they were interested and created www.letsgrabadrink.com.

"The market is saturated with online dating sites, and I thought there was space for something different and unique," Mamalakis said.

Mamalakis created six different categories based on people who order certain drinks. For example, an established professional with a history of success would fall into the martini category. An attention-seeking, fun-loving, outrageous person would likely be a shot.

The drinks are featured on the Web site's home page along with pictures of people who fit into those categories. Users can select a drink and browse through other profiles. Should a user find someone they are interested in, they can send a secure message via the Web site. Members may continue to communicate via e-mail until they feel comfortable meeting each other in person.

One of the site's goals was to be simplistic. In his research, Mamalakis found many dating sites had elaborate and cumbersome questionnaires that can take the better part of an hour to complete. He wanted to eliminate that and have a quicker, less-formal way of getting to know who a person is.

To create a profile, a member must enter basic information about their age, occupation, religious preferences, level of education and what they are looking for. It then allows the person to select what kind of drink they are and enter information into "About Me" and "Interests" boxes.

"The idea was to put in some basic elements so people get an idea of your educational level, your career and religious preferences and what you're looking for," Mamalakis said.

Mamalakis plans to make some changes to the site in the near future, like adding a quiz for those unsure of what type of drink they are. It also will be expanding nationally, instead of only operating in Illinois, California, Texas, New York and Minnesota.

"The purpose of Let's Grab a Drink! is to allow you to minimize the length of the initial meeting," according to the Web site. "Who wants to sit through an awkward and uncomfortable dinner? Let's Grab a Drink! and see how things go."

RI'S DATING REVELATION

Ri's Dating Revelation

Rihanna is a busy girl, she hasn't got time for a boyf.

And there's another thing...

She wants to get out and have a good goosy-gander at all the romantical world has to offer.

Rihanna ain't a settler.

When it comes to dating she's like a kid in a candy store, who has stumbled across the pick 'n' mix counter.

Meaning she can gorge on a variety of treats...

And not have to commit to just the one full choccy bar, which, let's face it, can make you feel slightly sick after a while.

Rihanna told US magazine: "I'm single. I like being single because you can explore new things. At times, not having commitment is great."

Go girl.

Last Updated: 13:08 UK, Friday August 24, 2007

ONLINE DATING TIPS FOR A FIRST DATE

Online Dating Tips For A First Date

Written by Editors Choice

Friday, 24 August 2007

When you're finally ready to meet someone on a first date who you've met online, you'll want to have a great first date idea in mind. First dates can sometimes be a bit difficult to work out since there are many things that you want to take into consideration. Your final choice for a first date idea will depend on how much you want to spend, whether it's a day time or night time date, and the interests that the two of you share. Since you met online you've probably each shared your likes, dislikes, and interests, so narrowing down something to do on your first date should be easy.

You might want to choose an inexpensive date for the first time around so that you can each pay your own way and not feel obligated to pay for a second date. Some good inexpensive date ideas include:

* The movies. Going to the movies is always a good choice since it breaks the ice while allowing both of you to get a feel for the other person. Let your date choose which film you're going to see. Don't plan for coffee afterwards; make the decision for coffee or a drink after the movie is over since you don't want to assume that you'll want to spend time together after the film has finished.

* A picnic. If this is a day time date consider going on a picnic if the weather permits. Take along a basket of food and wine and enjoy the day just relaxing in the sun as you get to know each other.

* Museum or art gallery: If you know that you both enjoy art or history this is a great first date idea. You can spend a couple of hours doing something that you both enjoy so there will be less tension and stress

If you're feeling a bit more extravagant there are some expensive dates that you can go on. Keep in mind that you want to be sure that your date is comfortable with these types of dates since they require a bit more planning and consideration:

* Concert: Take your date to a concert. This type of date will need planning ahead of time so that you can make sure that you have the tickets in hand. You'll also want to make sure that your date is interested in the concert that you've chosen.

* Dinner: An expensive dinner is a nice way to celebrate a first date but should be reserved for someone you feel particularly attracted to. Expensive dinners can often send a message to your date that they are worth it but might also convey the feeling that there is another date in the future.

* Theater: Tickets to the theater are perfect if you and your date share the same enthusiasm for the stage.

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New Blog Post With Dating Tips For People In Their Thirties

(OPENPRESS) August 24, 2007 -- Nicole Loves brand new article focuses on the advantages and disadvantages of dating in your thirties with quick tips to get you started on the dating scene.

Nicole begins by going over the common reasons that people are joining the dating scene in their thirties. She says that most people dating in their thirties are doing so because they have spent their 20's consolidating their finances so that their basic material concerns are taken care of. Now that they have taken care of their career paths they are ready to begin looking for that special someone.

Amongst the advantages that Nicole lists are financial security, levels of experience and self-confidence. A person in their 30's have gone through a lot more in life so their levels of experience are much higher than a younger person. These experiences also help create a greater sense of self-confidence, which works wonders on attracting the opposite sex. Best of all, they have a lot more money at their disposal that a 20 year old. This makes it easier to have dates with less stress when money is not that big of a concern.

Amongst the disadvantages Nicole lists social insecurity, high expectations and established habits and routines. She says that dating in your 30's can create a little insecurity because of worry about others ages on the dating scene. Coupled with routines that get established by the time your 30 and high expectations from your dates can create a few problems but these can easily be overcome with a little foresight and flexibility.

Nicole love writes on the blog located at http://dating-and-seduction-tips.blogspot.com . Her goal is to help men and women attain long-term success in dating and relationships. She believes that this can only be attained with the correct attitudes and expectations, which is what her recent posts have been about. You can read Nicole latest post, titled "Tips On The Advantages And Disadvantages Of Dating In Your Thirties" at the following location:
http://dating-and-seduction-tips.blogspot.com/2007/08/tips-on-advantages-and-disadvantages-of.html

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Online Alert: Some Pedophiles Date Moms to Reach Kids

Some Sexual Predators Troll Internet Dating Sites for Single Parents

For single parents, dating online may carry some dangers. Some predators are using Internet dating sites as a portal to reach the parents of their future victims. (ABCNEWS)

From GMA

Aug. 23, 2007

More than 20 million Americans log on to their computers each month looking for love, according to Online Dating Magazine.

While getting to know a potential mate from the privacy of their home may be comforting to some — especially single women getting back in the dating pool — it is not without danger. A growing number of sexual predators and pedophiles are taking advantage of online anonymity and using dating sites to prey on single mothers and their children.

A Dating Service With a Difference

Online dating service aims to raise awareness on environmental issues

By Kasia Fryklund

Special to the Epoch Times

Aug 23, 2007

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Past stereotypes have labeled online dating as both shady and questionable. However, it seems using online dating sites is increasingly becoming the acceptable norm for the many lonely hearts out there who are seeking Mr. or Ms. Right.

Vancouver-based Kisscafe is one of the numerous online dating services which allow its users to weed through many hopeful singles to find their perfect match. But Kisscafe is a little different in that it has an environmental slant.

In an effort to influence users to raise their environmental consciousness, the creators of Kisscafe have made it so all of the ads that help fund the site provide links to different environmental organizations and causes.

"Each project that I take on has to first make me happy and make me feel as though I've contributed to something positive," said Kisscafe founder Pete O'Reilly, who has made a conscious decision to live in a way that preserves the environment and urges others to do the same.

O'Reilly said one of the reasons he started the dating service was to "attract and inform" a large network of people on environmental issues. As well as the advertisements there are blogs, tips, and various discussions, many laced with environmental information.

"The site is like a combination of a dating service, an environmental website, and a self- help book. Even if you're not looking for a relationship, this site provides an interactive landmine of useful and applicable information for all areas of life," said 27-year old Kisscafe user Shawn Wilson.

No Fee for Kisscafe

What is also unusual about Kisscafe is that it invites users from all over the world to connect with one another for free. O'Reilly explained that many online services advertise their sites as free of charge, only to ask for subscription money when people attempt to go any further than making a profile.

"In our site we find people coming together from all walks of life. It's similar to speed dating where you can quickly look through a number of people, only with online dating you're more easily equipped to pick and choose," says O'Reilly.

Mark, a 33-year old from the Vancouver'> area who was introduced to the Kisscafe by a relative who met her husband through a similar dating site, said that while "it all seemed like a good idea," he's worried that his perfect match will come from some impossibly remote area.

"I know what's going to happen: I'll end up on here for way too long each day. There are so many more people on here than what I originally thought, and from all over the world too. I know that my Ms. Perfect will be living in some place like Antarctica!'

But does communicating through machines help or hinder relationship seekers to truly connect with the person on the other end of the monitor? According to a poll taken on Topdatingtips.com in 2004, 69 per cent of men and women said they use Internet dating sites.

When asked where the best place to meet people was, the Internet tied for second place with the bar. The workplace ranked highest as the place to meet people.

But there can be pitfalls with online dating, as Tessa, a 20-year old user from the Vancouver area discovered.

"My friend and I both signed up to Kisscafe and found that we were getting identical messages from the same guys. They were just copying and pasting the same pick up lines to us both. Digital or 3-D, guys don't seem to change," she said.

Because "you can never be too careful" when interacting with people on an Internet site, Kisscafe offers some advice to dating hopefuls for staying safe, such as not giving out contact information or agreeing to meet unless "you are completely sure it is safe to do so."

"I'm very proud of what we've done with Kisscafe and what we are about to do," said O'Reilly. "I decided to make a free dating site that has all the features—and soon to have a lot more—than the paid sites."

Phoenix tops 'Forbes' list for singles

Randy Cordova
The Arizona Republic
Aug. 23, 2007 07:38 PM

Hot, single athletes

Good news for the lonely: According to Forbes, Phoenix is the 15th-best city for singles in the United States.

Of course, with the good comes a little bad. Last year, Phoenix was ranked No. 3 in the same survey.

"The ranking from last year to this year simply shows that a lot of those single people are now married," reasons Phoenix Mayor Phil Gordon, a man who knows how to look on the bright side of things.

He also points out that Phoenix has placed in the top 20 for the past six years. Take that, Detroit (No. 21), San Antonio (No. 28) or Cleveland (No. 37).

Forbes added a twist to the proceedings this year. They named a most-eligible bachelor and bachelorette for most cities. Cardinals quarterback Matt Leinart and Jenn Hoffman, a publicist and Apprentice veteran, got the nods for the Valley.

Leinart previously was linked with Paris Hilton, while Hoffman dates KMLE-FM (107.9) personality Scott "Shappy" Shapiro.

"I was really surprised to be chosen," Hoffman says. "I kind of wondered how they even knew who I was."

She's never met Leinart, but thinks he is a logical choice.

"He's a very high-profile person in the Valley," she says. "He's kind of scandalous with women everywhere, so that makes him an extra-good choice."

She agrees that the city is a good place for singles. She even offers some advice for women looking to end their single status.

"The place I get hit on the most is the gym," she says.

A particular gym?

"Any gym. It sounds cheesy, but that's where people are obsessed with looks and hard bodies."

Forbes didn't include anything about health-club membership in its rankings. Instead, the magazine based its results on the areas of nightlife, culture, job growth, number of singles, cost of living alone and online dating. It also included the very Fonzie-like category of "coolness," which seems the very antithesis of cool.

"Phoenix is a great town for singles," says Eric Gudiño, 33, director of community relations for Arizona State University's downtown campus. "It's so diverse, which is fantastic. You can go to different parts of the Valley and see different segments of society."

Gudiño's haunts include Postino (postinowinecafe.com), Zen 32 (zen32.com) and the Merc Bar (mercbar.com). He gets out about two weekends a month.

"I'm getting older," he says. "Every weekend doesn't work for me any more."

Gordon thinks a lot of factors contribute to make Phoenix the place for young unmarrieds.

"It's a young city that doesn't have any social barriers," he says. "It values diversity and allows young people to succeed, and welcomes young people coming from other places."

Gordon doesn't have a lot of memories of his single days in the Valley. Well, that's not quite right.

"If I told you what Phoenix was like when I was single, my wife would kill me," he says. "Let's just say it's a great city to be in. I wouldn't want to leave, and I didn't."

Reach the reporter at randy.cordova@arizonarepublic.com or (602) 444-8849.

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